Whether you give birth vaginally or by C-section, your body will need time to heal. Consider waiting to have sex until your health care provider gives you the green light — often four to six weeks after
childbirth. This allows time for the cervix to close, postpartum bleeding to stop, and any tears or repaired lacerations to heal.Hormonal changes might leave your vagina dry and tender, especially if you’re breast-feeding. You might experience some pain during sex if you’re healing from an episiotomy or perineal tears, especially extensive tears. To help ease any discomfort during sex, take it slow. Start with cuddling, kissing or massage. Gradually build the intensity of stimulation. If vaginal dryness is a problem, use a lubricating cream or gel. Try different positions to take pressure off any sore areas and control penetration. After childbirth, decreased muscle tone in the vagina might reduce pleasurable friction during sex — which can influence arousal. This is usually temporary. o tone your pelvic floor muscles, try Kegel exercises. Simply tighten your pelvic muscles as if you’re stopping your stream of urine. Work up to keeping the muscles contracted for 10 seconds at a time, relaxing for 10 seconds between contractions.
Once you’ve got the hang of it, do at least three sets of about 10 Kegel exercises a day or yoga. Caring for a newborn is exhausting. If you’re too tired to have sex at bedtime, say so. This doesn’t mean your sex life has to end, however. Consider making love early in the morning, while your baby naps, or while your baby spends a few hours with a trusted friend or loved one. Try different positions to take pressure off any sore areas and control penetration.
You might also discuss alternatives to vaginal intercourse, such as oral or manual stimulation, until healing is complete. Tell your partner what feels good — and what doesn’t.