How to understand your wife
Woman as a wife enjoyed ideally a status almost equally to that of her husband and performed both social as well as biological functions.Even today, our women are still brought up on models portraying selflessness, self-denial, and sacrifice. The desire for mutual affection and love is beginning to appear in their conception of their relationship with their husbands. The husband-wife relationship has become more equalitarian in character and much more companionable.More freedom of choice in marriage is thus an accompaniment to the change in form of the family.
Woman As Wife:
Although the mother’s role is important, the role of wife is in some ways even more important and more vital. The wife who confuses the order of things and puts her child before her husband will most probably have a husband who feels neglected, and an unsatisfied husband may grow to resent any child who seems to take first place in his wife’s life. Since this wife may now lack a companion and lover, she sometimes attempts to make a “substitute husband” out of her child. She may also communicate frustration and low regard for her husband to the child, which may even cause the child to develop disrespect or even hatred for the father.
Woman as Mother:
The role of the mother is just as varied and important as that of the father. During the early years of child-rearing she devotes a great deal of her time to homemaking tasks. It is highly important during this crucial stage of adjustment,
particularly if she has just resigned from the world of work, that she accepts her new responsibilities graciously and with enthusiasm. If she has just left full-time employment, which is customary for a great many young women today, it is likely to be a profession for which she trained for several years. Her career may have been rewarding and challenging. If she suddenly becomes a full-time homemaker, the switch in roles may not be easy
Most importantly, a wife must learn to balance her role of wife and mother. The entrance of a child into the husband-wife relationship will necessitate a change in the couple’s relationship. She needs to be alert to her husband’s needs during this time so that the transition will go as smoothly as possible. She must be willing to leave the baby from time to time so that she can spend undivided time and attention with her husband. If at any time he begins to feel
neglected, that he is playing second fiddle to a child, she is on dangerous ground. A wife who continues to meet her husband’s need for appreciation, admiration and respect will help maintain his sense of identity and his feelings of security within the relationship.